Men and Romance

It is not always easy with men. I remember when I had a partner, he was always running around, always sitting in some pub or going to some party. I also remember that sometimes I wanted to relax at home and watch TV with my partner, but my partner didn\’t want to do that. My partner was more into hanging out with friends. I wouldn\’t have minded being there, but he didn\’t want to spend his youth anywhere but at home. And the worst part was that we wanted to have children, but he immediately said that he would not sit at home with me, that I would go on maternity leave with him, that we would go to parties, work, etc.

I was absolutely against it. How could my partner say that? Do all men do this? If all men did this, I don\’t think we would have children. Or I can never explain it. But when I compare my ex-partner to my brother, it\’s like heaven and earth. They are like fire and water. I guess my brother still just wants to sit at home with his kids and partner and enjoy normal love and family life. 26]

With no kids yet, I don\’t understand why my partner doesn\’t want to dedicate at least half of it, at least one day a week, to me alone. But he doesn\’t want to do it, always for an hour or a little longer at most, and other than that he always wants to be with friends or in a large group. But what\’s wrong with spending an evening, or a whole day, or 24 hours with me? With my partner. So in the end, it didn\’t suit me at all. And I had to leave my partner. I really couldn\’t take it anymore, and I wanted a life with a romantic partner.

I thought it would be easier with men. Now I am at odds with my partner. My partner and I have been together for several years, maybe six or seven. Many people laugh at me saying they can\’t imagine how many years I\’ve been with my partner, but in the beginning my partner and I would just fight and get together and then break up. I thought it was my fault, but then I realized that actually it was not only me who was at fault, but also men, and that not all men are perfect and not all men are gentlemen. So when my partner cursed at me and hit me repeatedly, I felt very disappointed and heartbroken.

He only slapped me but I was still very disappointed. It wasn\’t the slap that hurt me, it was the attitude and spirit. It was really sad. I didn\’t know that my partner also slapped me sometimes and many times. I was very unhappy about it, but afterwards many people told me that nothing needed to be done, that it was perfectly normal, because some women are beaten so badly that they have to be hospitalized for a week. In this case, I really don\’t know how I would act if my partner beat me and I had to be hospitalized, and I don\’t even want to imagine it.

I also think some men are really nice and some are aggressive. I know a lot of aggressive men and I know a lot of really nice and kind men. I think every woman should be happy to have a nice man at home and not take advantage of it. When I had a nice man at home, I ended up leaving him. He was my second partner and it didn\’t work out. We were like fire and water. We had no common interests. It\’s very sad that men and women don\’t have common interests.”